If there’s one mentality I’ve adopted from my just over 2 1/2 year obsession with the self-help, or what I call self-thrive industry, it’s that just because something is widely accepted by the masses doesn’t make it the “right” or only answer. Nor does it make it something you personally need to feel obligated to utilize in your own life.
One public figure in the self-thrive industry that I look up to tremendously is the ever-so-polarizing Tai Lopez. Best known for his YouTube video Here in My Garage as well as his “one book a day” practice, a life tip that he swears by; if you get past his overly-confident demeanor and candid explanations, his content is exceedingly life changing.
My favorite thing about his personal image is his ability and eagerness to challenge ideas, concepts, and practices that are well-known to society.
Whether the person stating the “fact” is a highly respected, world renowned doctor, or the phrase is one that has been repeated by generations, his rebellious nature just can’t help but confront the “fact” and find out what the reality is. Or at least find out whether or not there is another perspective that is also “right”.
That being said, “No Pain, No Gain”…an entirely off-putting phrase that we’ve all heard our entire lives.
Most likely from an authoritative figure such as a parent, teacher, or manager trying to convince us to do something we were disinterested in, or to possibly help us see the benefit of something we previously viewed as pointless.
That’s just it, “see the benefit”.
Recently Tai had a podcast episode that really resonated with me. He talked about how instead of focusing on the challenge of something, whether it be:
*starting a new business
*saving money for travel
*writing a book
or anything that requires time and effort, what if we focused on the reward/benefit?
Wouldn’t that make the entire process so much more exciting and memorable?
The majority of life is spent waiting.
-waiting in lines
-waiting for phone calls
-waiting for a package to come in the mail
-waiting on someones decision
-waiting for your food to be ready
That means if we don’t find a way to enjoy the process, we’re squandering our life away doing nothing but waiting and anticipating. Is that any way to live?
How can we make the process pleasurable if we associate it with “pain”?
In one of my favorite books of all time, Better than Before, Gretchen Rubin talks about how we all fall under a certain Tendency.
Depending on your Tendency, you will to take different approaches if you want to build habits. The name of my Tendency is “Questioner”.
This means no matter what habit I’m trying to build or expectation I’m trying to meet, I’m going to question that validity of it.
If it makes sense to me and I deem it worthwhile, that’s the only way I’m going to followthrough and stay committed to something.
Although not everyone fits the description/category of questioner, here is something I want to encourage within you…
Next time you want to do something big, that’s going to take a lot of work consider why you are doing it in the first place and what amazing thing is going to come once you attain your aspiration.
❤ Will you finally get a chance with someone who may not be attracted to you right now?
❤ Will you finally be able to take that three month hiatus to Bora Bora that you've been dreaming about for 2 years now?
❤ Will you be able to wear a bikini and feel sexy again for the first time in 10 years?
❤ Will you be able to leave your day job and work from anywhere in the world?
❤ Will you be able to finally be reaching millions of people spreading your light and message globally?
Whatever it is, focus on what's to come, and see how much further and quicker it takes you to your destination. "No Pain, No Gain" is old news. This time, try "No Reward, No Results and let me know how it works out for you.