Lifestyle · Self Expression

I’ve Always Wanted to be Her

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Ever since I was a teen, my alter ego has been a Manic Pixie Dream Girl who lives in a big city. Screw the part about “existing only to teach soulful young men to embrace life and its infinite mysteries and adventures”, I’m talking about her looks and matching personality.
While most teen girls envision the most ideal version of themselves as the homecoming queen who grows up to become the picture-perfect boss lady with a smokin’ hot husband and meets her photoshoot worthy friends for brunch every week, I’ve always admired the free thinking nonconformist.
You know the girl from the movies with blue hair who wears the same tattered AF leather jacket in every scene, but it doesn’t matter because it completes her?
She wears a ton of gaudy rings, has chipped black nail polish, oversized glasses, and drives a beater red VW beetle.
She’s usually a passionate musician or writer with a shitty side hustle and the inside of her apartment looks like a mismatched overly-cluttered vintage store. (Perfect example being Sophia from the short lived Netflix series #Girlboss)

Secretly I’ve always envied that girl and full disclosure, still kind of want to be her. Not that I desire to be broke as a joke having no other options but frayed second-hand clothes and a car that might stop on the freeway on my way to Oakland.
It’s her fiercely authentic nature and unstoppable but New Age, beatnik demeanor that I adore so much.
I’ve always had so many questions about her though…
-Where are her parents and why doesn’t she ask them for help?
-How does she not get depressed from the constant place of struggle and instability?
-Does she even think twice about her credit score or the number in her bank account?
No matter what, she seems to be unfazed by financial insecurity or any roadblock that life tries to knock her backwards with. She’s a warrior and she’s no joke; an irrefutable badass.

Many times I’ve asked myself over the years, “Why can’t I be like her?”

But the other day, I was reading a very powerful article about reinventing yourself and it finally hit me…

Why can’t I be like her? There is nothing stopping me.

I realized that I am the author of the story of my life. I get to decide where the scenes will take place, which characters I want to channel, and the image I want to portray.
That’s when I decided. I’m going to live the story I want to tell.
And I’m here to tell you, you can too. It’s all within you. How miraculous is that?

The first thing you need to know is that whomever you want to be is authentic to you. You were given that want for a reason, it’s your divine assignment to create her, to live her out.
We live in a world where people hold in the most lively versions of themselves because of Imposter Syndrome. #Truthbomb sister friend, the most authentic version of yourself is who you desire to become, not who you currently are. What would be inauthentic is pretending to be someone because you’re trying to live up to an image you think you’re “supposed” to be.
So design her, step into her. She’s magical.

If you’re ready to step into her, let’s do it together. I want to gift you with a guide on how to become her. Here are the steps:

1. Grab a journal and time block at least 2 hours to write out and get clear on this true version of yourself. (Remember this is not the new you, but the true you. Whoever she is, she is already within you.)

2 . Find an inspiring, distraction free place to map out your vision. It could be a trendy coffee shop that gives you creative energy or a zen candle lit spa-like space that allows ideas to flow to you while you sip tea. It’s all up to the individual, this is about you.

3. Write out every possible detail you can about this ideal version of you.
•What does she wear?
•How does she talk?
•What are her interests?
•How does she spend her weekends?
•What does her social media look like?
•How does she decorate her home?

4. Put yourself in environments authentic to her.
•Yoga class
•American Ninja Warrior
•Goddess circles
•Activist campaigns
•Concerts
•Farmers markets
•Retreats
•Conferences
•Festivals
Wherever this true you likes to spend her time, make that your regular.

4. Up-Level your environment.
It’s important to be rigid about what goes into your consciousness.
•Is your apartment constantly cluttered? It’s time to start keeping it organized.
•Is there a negative person in your life? It’s time to let that person go or at least create boundaries.
•Do you eat greasy bar food every weekend? It’s time to trade that for a whole food health cafe.
This true version of you deserves only the best.
Find a “Power Piece”. Something you absolutely love and can wear or take with you so you can look at it every day. A piece of jewelry, a tattoo, a traveling crystal. This will serve as a reminder for you to keep stepping into your authenticity. It should feel like magic every time you look at it.

5. Act the part until you become the part.
Eventually it will feel natural, so be patient with yourself, enjoy & document the process, and remember #YOUGOTTHISBABE

xoxo,

Karissa

Things to Consider

I’m Not that into Music… I’m also Not Judging Myself

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It’s so interesting how ideas end up coming to fruition.
So often I will have an idea for a blog post and the majority of content magically writes itself but when it comes to the punch line, I can’t put it into words as perfectly as it makes sense in my mind.
Then I will be listening to something, a podcast, an interview, or even just the sounds of the universe and just like magic, the missing puzzle pieces will come together to manifest the words to the content that I had in my mind.
I am the type of person that always has a
million thoughts going through my head.
And not just any ideas, ideas that are in alignment with my diving assignment. For that reason, I can’t let myself part with them. That is a big reason, I like to bask in silence a lot of the time.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always preferred to have no music on while driving.
At the current phase of my life, I do a lot of driving and as you can imagine, living in LA means long commutes even just to the coffee shop down the street.
I’ve recently noticed that as soon as I turn on or get into a vehicle I subconsciously turn off the radio no matter how loud the volume is or what type of music, even non-lyrical. When I get into a vehicle with loud music playing, it severely interferes with my zen. It also interrupts my thoughts, and as a content creator and deep thinker, I can’t allow for that to happen.
Majority of the time I have so many ideas and thoughts going through my head that having background noise interrupts the flow and a possible breakthrough.
I’ve also noticed that often times I can get half way through an hour long drive before I realize that I haven’t had anything playing in the background the entire time. And to be honest, I love it that way. I don’t bother turning anything on once I’ve become aware.
When in a car with someone else, usually the first thing I hear is “What kind of music do you listen to?” and while there are a handful of songs that I listen to because they speak to my soul, contrary to my early teenage years I’m just not that into music; therefore my answer is “I like to listen to podcasts while driving”. Most people are pretty taken back when they hear that.
To be honest, I can’t even really come up with a favorite music artist or even song for that matter.
I even remember back to my college days when my best friend and I would be studying together and could never agree on whether or not to have something playing. She preferred to have light, relaxing songs while we worked, and I preferred no background noise and us just casually talking.
While most mornings, I look forward to listening to a broadening podcast to set the tone for the day and give me ideas, often times in the middle of the day or evenings, I want to hear nothing more than my own thoughts.
By nature, I always want to feel productive but when it’s time to zen out and just let my mind wander, I don’t want to hear anything.
It’s taken me a while to realize that this is my own preference and it’s perfectly ok.
In the world that we live in today, it’s very common to get caught in the comparison trap. With social media giving us so much access to the inside of other peoples lives, it’s only natural to look at your life side-by-side with someone else’s.
For so long I felt like I was “weird” for not enjoying music the same way my peers did.
I can think back to college, when everyone around me had thousands of songs on their iPod, and I had under 100 and didn’t even know how to download songs without having to pay for them. In fact, I still don’t.
I even remember days when I would spend my free time researching bands and artists that I had heard of just to find new music that wasn’t my preference to add more songs to my playlist.
But in retrospect, why? Not being interested in something is entirely normal. Just because the masses are into something doesn’t mean I have to be or you have to be.
So much of my young-life, I was judged by those closest to me for my personality.
I would here things like…
“When we were at that birthday party, you didn’t even want to dance”
And
“Why do you want to be home by 10? You’re such an old lady”
And because of that I felt like something was off about me simply because of my preference. But the fact is, I didn’t choose this; it’s a part of my biology.
Just because so many other people enjoy music I’m supposed to as well?
It took me time to accept this about myself. It wasn’t until I realized that no matter how hard I tried to love music, it just wasn’t me.
Then I looked a little deeper and when I realized that my thoughts, ideas, and content were more important than music (and so was my self development) podcasts, audio books; I realized that I wouldn’t have it any other way. Regardless of what anyone else thought.
That being said, I invite you to examine your life, your world, your existence. Is there part of your life that is only there because you feel like it’s “supposed to be”?
Is there anything that is taking up space that if you let go of it, you would be able to hold space for something else?
In my case, it’s inspiration and content creation. I’d so much rather have that than music. Therefore, I no longer judge or try to change myself for what I naturally gravitate towards and there’s no reason for you to either.
In life, there is truly nothing that you are “supposed” to do other than be a decent member of society and follow your calling. If you are in alignment with your divine assignment, you are light years ahead of most of the world and I celebrate you.

BossGirl of the Week

Boss Girl of the Week: Alina Dhalla

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Name: Alina Dhalla

Age: 16

Location: Lancaster, CA

Occupation: Animal Rights Activist & Gentle Barn Volunteer

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Have you ever met someone and known right away that they’re going to change the world? Have you ever met someone and known that you just had to stay in touch because you wanted to see where life would take them; so you made sure to follow them on Social Media? This was exactly what happened just two short months ago when I met Alina Dhalla at The Gentle Barn; a sanctuary in Santa Clarita, CA that rescues farm animals from lives of abuse and saves many animals from slaughter.
While most teenagers spend their weekends with friends and looking for ways to sneak into the trendiest party in town, Alina spends every weekend volunteering between two different sanctuaries, facilitating rescues, and attending Pig Save Vigils at local slaughterhouses.
At just 16 years old she has rescued a chicken, a pig, and two sheep from slaughter, has made the choice to be vegan, and is constantly educating herself by going to auctions in attempts to learn more about saving animals and educating people on veganism.
As if that is not impressive enough, she has an expansive vocabulary and an ability to connect with all different kinds of people. When confronted with incorrect information such as when someone at GB made a comment about the Emu named Earl that she works with not being friendly; she has a mature and kind way of responding so that people understand the truth and can change their perspectives.

How did you get started volunteering at The Gentle Barn and working with Earl?
AD: I just got picked randomly after I put in an application. At first he was very intimidating, scary and snappy. He was aggressive and defensive but he’s really impacted my life.

Did you get trained?
AD: I didn’t get trained, I just had to learn.

Did you know anything about Emus before?
AD: Nope, but I learned about their anatomy and being used for different products like emu oil. I also found that they are very loving and compassionate.

Would you say an emu is your favorite animal?
AD: Yes, I would.

What was your first rescue story?
AD: It was Lucky, that’s how I got to know about Saving Grace Sanctuary. If I wasn’t there he would’ve been slaughtered, he was next. It was an open slaughterhouse, I took a screen shot of it and said “Mom, let’s go there”. I negotiated with them and said “Can you spare just one chicken?”

What was it like the first time you went to an auction?
AD: All they saw were dollar signs, all they saw was money. I don’t believe in paying for animals.

How long have you been vegan?
AD: Four months

How did you become an animal lover?
AD: It started out with a cat that kept stopping by our house. He was skin and bones and my mom said “Don’t start feeding it, it’ll come back every day”. I didn’t care, I was thinking about his condition. She was right, he did come back every day. I feel honored, instead of us adopting him, he adopted us. He’s impacted us. I would sit on the swing and he would cuddle, I felt like I had to return the favor.

Do you still have him?
AD: Yes, his name is Casper.

What has been the most challenging part of all of this?
AD: When I go to school, friends that don’t want to be friends anymore. I had a teacher who knows I’m vegan who explained to the whole class why vegan is the wrong diet. When I see people on social media eating burgers.

How do you respond?
AD: I try to write back saying my heart hurts, I don’t want to fight back.

How do you educate people who think animals are aggressive?
AD: I try to inform them that it depends on the way you treat the animal. It’s a defense mechanism; if they feel attacked and not safe, they try to tell you. But they love unconditionally.

Do you get offended?
AD: I think of Earl as this sweet thing who’s done so much for my life. It hurts me that people don’t know.

Do you have any other favorite animals?
AD: I really like sheep. It started when I went to an auction and witnessed a sheep that was about to be slaughtered. He made this noise like he wanted me to come back. I felt like there was this animal that needed me and I was walking away. I was able to save a mom and her baby, but the other baby I couldn’t get. I was like “Listen to her cry, she wants her mom”. It was sad and you could see the tears coming down her eyes. Doing a rescue isn’t easy, you can’t have high hopes I’ve learned.

What do you see happening in the future and where do you want your career to go?
AD: I see myself being successful, saving animals who are in the worst places and taking them away. I think I want to be a vet and have my own sanctuary for farm animals. It’s the adrenaline and the result of it that makes you feel great.

Where?
AD: Well that’s a good question, I don’t know. I see myself in California but I also see myself in third world countries like China. They believe dogs taste better when they are tortured.

What do you do on your days off?
AD: Instead of going to movies with friends, I conduct rescues, volunteer, go to Saving Grace and learn how to run a sanctuary, the physical and what it’s like. I rarely get to interact with the animals.

What is your definition of a Boss Girl?
AD: Someone that’s overpowering, someone who can do anything. It’s not just men. You’re your own boss, saving animals or doing whatever your heart desires.

What makes you stand out? What sets you apart?
AD: I rescue animals at a young age. Kids my age are worried about partying, hanging out with friends, and having a good reputation. I’m worried about the world. How can I save a life? How many can I save in a week?

Who is a Boss Girl that inspires you?
AD: Well that’s hard. There’s this lady named Anita, she’s an animal activist and she’s actually from Canada. She started the pig vigil and was supposed to go to jail. She was giving pigs water and the truck driver didn’t like that she was being compassionate, but the case was closed. She’s awesome, she started it all.

Who is a Boss Girl you would want to spend the day with?
AD: A BG I would want to hang out with would be Ellie, the founder of The Gentle Barn. I would like to be her for one day. To see what it’s like, to be exposed to a lot more. I’ve never been inside a slaughterhouse to take the animal out. Any rescue mission with Ellie, I would love to go to a Dairy Farm next.

Alina Dhalla is a Boss Girl. Here is my story about meeting Alina.

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A Day in My Life · Lifestyle

Lightbulb Moment: Bust the Door Down

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I absolutely love lightbulb moments! I get an adrenaline rush whenever I have an epiphany because not only does it show me my frequency and the type of energy I’m putting out, but to know that I was given the “Big Magic” to create content and share a thought that could spark a fire in others really makes me glow within.
So here’s the light bulb moment I had recently…
This coming March will be my second time attending a women’s weekend retreat that last year had a bigger impact on my life and how I see the world than any other experience in the 26 years of my existence. So big that I plan to go every year until the day comes that it stops running.
Last year, I attended alone not knowing what to expect so the most I could do was receive and send out love and warm vibes.
This year, I feel called to take a different approach and I want to come with something tangible to give each beautiful soul in our tribe. At this event, each attendee is given a gift bag with healthy snacks, beauty products, books, and other treats.
As an up and coming artist, I would love to design a piece of art that each sister could take home; I haven’t finalized on the medium yet, but what I do know is I would want it to have a powerful quote accompanied by a soothing painting.
One that each boss babe can look at every day and remember how amazing she is and to keep following her dreams.
Today (after putting it off for weeks) I finally reached out to the team that is organizing the event and asked if I could contribute to the gift bags.
I had no idea what the outcome was going to be because I wasn’t sure if I had missed the deadline for sponsors or if everything contributed to the gift bag had to meet a certain standard or be carefully reviewed before being given a definitive answer.
That’s when the lightbulb moment hit me…
It didn’t matter what the outcome was, because I was going to bring them and give them out at the retreat either way.
Whether or not I got the “go ahead” to contribute them to the gift bags didn’t matter because if I was told “no”, I was still going to give them out to everyone, I would just have to do it personally.
…And if I did it personally, I would be able to interact with everyone, tell them about my brand and they in return could tell me about their brand. BOOM! Building a tribe one babe at a time.
Then I thought a little deeper, and realized that this applies to so many other things in life. When it comes to something we really want, we don’t wait for someone to give us an opportunity, we go into it full force and design that opportunity for ourselves!
Metaphorically, we don’t knock on the door and wait for someone to open it, we bust that door down and put on a show for the people inside. We make ourselves to be so awe-inspiring, that they can’t ignore us.
Usually in a situation like this I would be discouraged and feel let down if I were told no, but then I realized that I have the capability of shining my light in more ways than just one.
Just because something doesn’t play out exactly the way l had envisioned doesn’t mean that I can’t turn it in to something just as magical if not more than the original idea or plan. This goes for all of us.
And now for the big reveal…less than 24 hours later I got a response from the team and they gave my the YES, the invitation to be a part of the gift bags. I was ecstatic and I can’t wait to create something that will bring everyone to life and let each woman know that anything she is looking for, she has it all within her.
Remember this the next time you are pitching yourself for an opportunity. Instead of hoping/waiting for the opportunity to fall into place perfectly; ask yourself how you can create the result you want without banking on the go ahead from someone else. You got this babe, it’s all within you.

Lifestyle · Things to Consider

Are Your Goals Coming from Your SOUL?

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What if you knew that the fulfilling, soul aligned “work” you were in the pursuit of or are currently doing wasn’t entirely your choice, but instead a call to action; a step into your authenticity and who you were meant to be all along?

Would you let go of all of those guilty feelings about quitting the soul crushing 9-5 that you’ve only stayed in because of the status, the decent pay, or the low risk and 401K or because you don’t want to be a let down to the people in your life?

Would you stop questioning yourself for going against the traditional path of life after your friends and family convinced you that you might go broke or that traveling the world alone isn’t safe?

Would you keep investing in yourself without hesitation because you know that the fire within you is not there by accident and your calling is not only going to fulfill your soul, but help other amazing people live the lives they authentically desire?

This is something I’ve been ruminating on for a long time now and just the other day it hit me. There’s a reason why I haven’t been able to ignore my burning desire to step outside my comfort zone and create something magical is because I didn’t choose it; the only thing I am choosing is to follow it. My intuition is trying to awaken me, to step into my power and be my most genuine self and real talk, who am I to argue with my intuition?

Same goes for you babe, who are you to argue with your intuition? You owe it to yourself and to the rest of the world to be everything you were destined to be. And I can tell you one thing for sure, you weren’t destined to spend the majority of your existence in a soul-crushing 9-5 making someone else’s dream come true.

Some people may tell you to wait for a more ideal time, other people may tell you to keep your stable job while you work on this “hobby”. While I definitely encourage you to have a consistent income until you’re able to manifest work-life integration, keep in mind that you also want to have enough free time and energy to work on your passion project.

This doesn’t happen when you’re working a draining 11 hour day, dealing with entitled customers and a manager who is so bought in to the corporate minutiae that he/she only cares about being the next CEO of the company.

So if you need to get a job at a local coffee shop or as the receptionist at a trendy start up, go for it. You might have to make under your life for a little bit, but in the end it will be worth it, not to mention a story to tell.

That being said, I have to ask you…Are your goals aligned with your soul?

2018 is here and now is the time to live your vision.
Each year many of us create goals and plans, but come mid year we have given up or forgotten about them entirely. I never understood why it was so difficult to follow through with New Years resolutions, but a recent Facebook live helped me understand.
Goals have to be coming from YOUR soul in order to be fulfilled.
Last January I attended a vision board workshop at my yoga teacher Gigi Yogini’s yoga studio. One thing I remember being discussed was only putting things on the board that are truly coming from you.
An event because your partner wants to go or applying for a position because your parents want you to were not things to be put on the board designed by you, FOR you.

Even if you think things are coming from inside you, it’s important to keep asking why and ensure that the motivation behind your vision is enough to propel you forward.

One common example is losing weight. Do you want to lose weight to be more attractive to your partner or to look good to impress your best friends and other women?
Although those are good motivators, they are not enough, that is why we give up.
But you know what is…saying you want to lose weight to love the skin you’re in even more and to be able to show others in a similar situation how you did it so they can feel good about themselves too.

The same goes for success in your business whether it be life-coaching, jewelry design, health and nutrition, etc.
Are you launching this business just to look successful in the eyes of others and show the rest of the world that you can work from anywhere? Or are you launching it because it’s what gets you amped up every day, knowing that you will have done your absolute best and can fall asleep with a full heart knowing you are following your bliss. It matters.

Take time for yourself to reflect on what ambitions and authentic desires and plans you have for the upcoming year. Make sure they are coming from your heart, your intuition, your fiery SOUL.
Once you have them all planned out write them out or put them on a vision board then put them in a place you will see them every day this year. Then speak them into the Universe, ask the Universe to be by your side while you pursue this.
Starting today, tell yourself “just one thing” (post about this coming soon). Every single day, do AT LEAST one thing to move you closer to that you want.
-Facebook Live
-Vlog
-Blog Post
-Invest $ into a marketing plan
-Attend a retreat or seminar
-Pitch your product to someone
-Do a 1/2 hour HIIT
-Spend a day designing and making new products
You know what you need to do, and darling, it’s all within you.
And finally, let go of any guilt or second thoughts you may have about pursuing your calling. Because that’s exactly what it is, YOUR calling. You have not chosen it, your calling has chosen YOU! How big of an honor is that? All you are choosing to do is follow it, because it’s meant to be.
Remember this whenever you begin to question whether or not you “should”resort to being “normal”. If you don’t feel normal, it’s because you are meant for a higher purpose. The world needs your gift.

xoxo,

KB

Lifestyle

Whose Lifestyle Guidance is For You?

Fucking AmazingCheers in MalibuMalibu MountainThe reality of today is that we live in a very sensitive society.
From an early age, we tend to be told that we can do anything, that we are smart and talented, and that we are beautiful or handsome in every way.
This is wonderful for building self-esteem. While it is true that words of affirmation are important and that we all have gifts that deserve to be celebrated, it has also resulted in a generation of sensitive little flowers.
There are certain realities that people are quick to reject because they live in a bubble and think that others are being unkind when in actuality they are relaying valid, beneficial messages.
There are even things that are intended to be cute or funny (not at anyone’s expense) that people find a reason to complain about.
One good example that I recently heard is when my Bliss Project sister Angie Lee changed the name of her podcast to Rich Bitch. There were women emailing to tell her that the new name was “so offensive”.
The name change was intended to rhyme and be clever and catchy so that listeners would remember it. Well done Angie, I honestly can’t think of a better name for it as the content is mostly about money and building a personal brand. Not to mention it’s HER podcast, therefore she can name it what she wants.
We’re not always going to agree with how people phrase things, however if we choose to dismiss a thought or idea simply because it is not stated in our preferred ways, we are choosing to miss out on information that may be vital to life. Yes choosing.
The other day I was listening to The MFCEO Project Podcast with Andy Frisella.
Anyone who has listened to him even once can tell you he gets straight to the point and is the literal definition of “No BS”.
He swears every other word, has no problem calling people out and using their name, and is very open about when he “1000 % disagrees” with someone.
A lot of people may consider this behavior “offensive” and yet he has an enormous following, an incredibly successful nutrition company, and makes more money in one month than most will make in a lifetime.
Why is this? Simple, because he offers value. What more could you ask for, regardless of how hard-ass he comes off?
There is one thing he mentioned in a recent podcast that really resonated with me.
He was talking about how when you set aspirations, to make them BIG, BIG, BIG! Bigger than you think you want. If you want to make 10 million, be ambitious and say 100 million. Knowing that you have something significant to work for means you will be putting an immense amount of heart and soul into everything you do which will lead you to think outside of the box and go to the ends of earth to make your dream your reality.
He then made a very polarizing statement that really got me thinking…
He said “I know your teachers and counselors who haven’t done shit taught you to set small attainable goals, but small attainable goals is how you earn a small attainable life.”
Blunt, but it couldn’t be more true. Why are we conditioned from a young age to listen and take advice from teachers, guidance counselors, parents, or just adults in general?
What amazing things have they done to make someone else’s life better?
What amazing things have they done to make their own lives worth talking about?
Take a good look at most of the adults that you grew up around and ask yourself… Are they living MY dream life? If the answer is no, then what are you doing taking lifestyle direction from them?
Truly they have done nothing but take a traditional path with low risk and decent reward. While there’s nothing wrong with those career choices, if you’re reading this blog, I know that’s not what you’re about.
I know you have a fire within you and are meant for something deeper.
In Gretchen Rubin’s book Better Than Before, she talks about how all people fall under a certain tendency when it comes to meeting inner and/or outer expectations. My tendency is that of a Questioner. One who needs to ask “why?” when met with an expectation and only follows through if it makes sense and he or she deems it worth it.
There could not be a better description of me and the same held true when I was a kid. I never understood why kids would be told “respect your elders”, “listen to your teachers”, or “parents know best”.
I mean yes, they deserve a certain degree of up front respect, but only because they are human and that is a birthright, not because they are older.
Adults or not, I still believed they needed to earn my respect, it wasn’t just going to be given.
Why in the world would I put someone on a pedestal just because they have more life experience than me?
Now I am no way advocating for being intentionally rebellious or insubordinate, however still to this day I believe in listening to someone because they are an example of something I want, not because they are in a position above me, whether that be an older adult, a manager, or someone trying to give me unsolicited counsel.
I can even remember when I was 18 years old and I would go into a classroom of 6th and 7th graders to tutor every Monday. The teachers told them to use “Miss” before my name and I specifically requested to just be called by my name. In my mind I was their equal and I was there to help, not to make anyone feel like I was above them.
The message I am trying to convey here is that it’s important to be selective of who you take advice, ideas, and direction from.
The people who I follow and whose advice I apply to my own life are the ones who are living a life beyond my wildest dreams. My yoga teachers, my life coaches, people who write books, people who create podcasts, people who plan retreats, people who have seen the world.
Why would I take information from anyone who is living an entirely mediocre existence?
I know in my heart, I do not exist to be mediocre and with all my being, I know you don’t either. Today, I am here to remind you of that.
So next time you find someone giving you life tips, question everything.
-Who are they?
-What have they done to be amazing in this world?
-What kind of life do they currently live?

If they are your person, follow them, find out who they follow, and keep finding ways to create magic until your life is magic.

If they are not your person, wish them well and then find someone who can lead you down the path of higher purpose that you are here for. Gift the world with YOUR badassery.

My Journal

Gifts and Authentic Style

If you’ve ever read the The Five Love Languages , you know that Receiving Gifts is one of the languages.
While it is not my love language, it is one of the two that I give the most. The other is quality time.
This is one of the several reasons I adore the holidays so much. Holiday shopping.
Seeing other people light up is one of the most incredible feelings of the human experience, especially when a person knows that you thought of them in particular.
Occasionally I will have the perfect idea for a gift for someone, but majority of the time I just go to local boutiques and farmers and flea markets to see what speaks to me. It’s exciting! It’s something that brings me an enormous amount of pleasure; gift giving and supporting small/local businesses.
This past Sunday, I did the majority of my holiday shopping and before starting, I stopped at The Butcher’s Daughter (a vegetarian restaurant) near me for a lavender mocha to get my spirits high.
There was a long line and while waiting on the barista, I couldn’t help but look around and observe the amazing fashion choices of the people around me. Reason number 184847 that I love LA.
The Butcher’s Daughter is located on Abbott Kinney, known as the “coolest block in America”. Although I have been there numerous times, I now understand why it has that reputation.
Growing up in the Midwest, I didn’t really have a chance to explore and understand fashion. I thought I did at the time, but my definition of fashionable was wearing a velvet hoodie from the latest name brand paired with skinny jeans and fuzzy winter boots (a memory I don’t like to look back on).
It wasn’t until I moved to Chicago in 2010 where I gained my appreciation for vintage clothes and decor and then LA in 2014 where I gained my appreciation for authentic style.
People here know how to put together a look authentic to them from Bohemian to Boss Babe to Bad Bitch. I love it.
When I finally made my way to the Melrose Trading Post where I began my search for gifts, I noticed the same thing.
It’s my personal opinion, that wearing designer outfits from head to toe is the easy way out. While there is nothing wrong with loving the designer pieces that you’ve worked so hard for, there is something so sexy about not knowing where somebody purchased their clothes or who/what the inspiration was to style them that way.
In fact, usually when I ask people where they bought something, they say “a thrift store”, or “a local boutique in (insert destination here”).
I asked a couple of the gals I was waiting in line with where they got their rings and one said “a cruise ship” the other said “Etsy”. It seems as though looking for individual pieces from local designers is the new cool thing to do. Or maybe I’m just the anomaly, who knows.
Here are some of the things I noticed people wearing as I was people watching:
-Perfectly Fitting Jeans
-Beautiful Graphic T Shirts
-Dainty Stacking Rings and Bracelets
-Very Detailed Patterned Leggings
-Dark Sunglasses
-Hair looking like they just came out of Dry Bar
LeotardPrinted PantsDainty JewelryI can't adult todayDark SunglassesDainty Rings

I’ve always had a deep appreciation for people who take pride in their appearances. It displays confidence and self-worth. Two very honorable qualities.
It may sound dramatic but I’m being totally real, I got such a dopamine rush from observing so many women’s style choices.
It also makes me very intrigued about fashions around the world. Now, I’m sure I will have a hyper awareness towards dress-style patterns as I travel more and more. Being able to recognize this was a great gift in and of itself.

Now I want to turn it over to you ❤

Have you ever had a similar experience of noticing styles of the locals?

Do you have any recommendations of places to travel to where people have great fashion?

Let me know babe, I want to hear from YOU!

xoxo,

KB

Disclaimer: None of the photos in this post are taken by me