BossGirl of the Week

Boss Girl of the Week: Alina Dhalla

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Name: Alina Dhalla

Age: 16

Location: Lancaster, CA

Occupation: Animal Rights Activist & Gentle Barn Volunteer

IG: alinarescues_

Have you ever met someone and known right away that they’re going to change the world? Have you ever met someone and known that you just had to stay in touch because you wanted to see where life would take them; so you made sure to follow them on Social Media? This was exactly what happened just two short months ago when I met Alina Dhalla at The Gentle Barn; a sanctuary in Santa Clarita, CA that rescues farm animals from lives of abuse and saves many animals from slaughter.
While most teenagers spend their weekends with friends and looking for ways to sneak into the trendiest party in town, Alina spends every weekend volunteering between two different sanctuaries, facilitating rescues, and attending Pig Save Vigils at local slaughterhouses.
At just 16 years old she has rescued a chicken, a pig, and two sheep from slaughter, has made the choice to be vegan, and is constantly educating herself by going to auctions in attempts to learn more about saving animals and educating people on veganism.
As if that is not impressive enough, she has an expansive vocabulary and an ability to connect with all different kinds of people. When confronted with incorrect information such as when someone at GB made a comment about the Emu named Earl that she works with not being friendly; she has a mature and kind way of responding so that people understand the truth and can change their perspectives.

How did you get started volunteering at The Gentle Barn and working with Earl?
AD: I just got picked randomly after I put in an application. At first he was very intimidating, scary and snappy. He was aggressive and defensive but he’s really impacted my life.

Did you get trained?
AD: I didn’t get trained, I just had to learn.

Did you know anything about Emus before?
AD: Nope, but I learned about their anatomy and being used for different products like emu oil. I also found that they are very loving and compassionate.

Would you say an emu is your favorite animal?
AD: Yes, I would.

What was your first rescue story?
AD: It was Lucky, that’s how I got to know about Saving Grace Sanctuary. If I wasn’t there he would’ve been slaughtered, he was next. It was an open slaughterhouse, I took a screen shot of it and said “Mom, let’s go there”. I negotiated with them and said “Can you spare just one chicken?”

What was it like the first time you went to an auction?
AD: All they saw were dollar signs, all they saw was money. I don’t believe in paying for animals.

How long have you been vegan?
AD: Four months

How did you become an animal lover?
AD: It started out with a cat that kept stopping by our house. He was skin and bones and my mom said “Don’t start feeding it, it’ll come back every day”. I didn’t care, I was thinking about his condition. She was right, he did come back every day. I feel honored, instead of us adopting him, he adopted us. He’s impacted us. I would sit on the swing and he would cuddle, I felt like I had to return the favor.

Do you still have him?
AD: Yes, his name is Casper.

What has been the most challenging part of all of this?
AD: When I go to school, friends that don’t want to be friends anymore. I had a teacher who knows I’m vegan who explained to the whole class why vegan is the wrong diet. When I see people on social media eating burgers.

How do you respond?
AD: I try to write back saying my heart hurts, I don’t want to fight back.

How do you educate people who think animals are aggressive?
AD: I try to inform them that it depends on the way you treat the animal. It’s a defense mechanism; if they feel attacked and not safe, they try to tell you. But they love unconditionally.

Do you get offended?
AD: I think of Earl as this sweet thing who’s done so much for my life. It hurts me that people don’t know.

Do you have any other favorite animals?
AD: I really like sheep. It started when I went to an auction and witnessed a sheep that was about to be slaughtered. He made this noise like he wanted me to come back. I felt like there was this animal that needed me and I was walking away. I was able to save a mom and her baby, but the other baby I couldn’t get. I was like “Listen to her cry, she wants her mom”. It was sad and you could see the tears coming down her eyes. Doing a rescue isn’t easy, you can’t have high hopes I’ve learned.

What do you see happening in the future and where do you want your career to go?
AD: I see myself being successful, saving animals who are in the worst places and taking them away. I think I want to be a vet and have my own sanctuary for farm animals. It’s the adrenaline and the result of it that makes you feel great.

AD: Well that’s a good question, I don’t know. I see myself in California but I also see myself in third world countries like China. They believe dogs taste better when they are tortured.

What do you do on your days off?
AD: Instead of going to movies with friends, I conduct rescues, volunteer, go to Saving Grace and learn how to run a sanctuary, the physical and what it’s like. I rarely get to interact with the animals.

What is your definition of a Boss Girl?
AD: Someone that’s overpowering, someone who can do anything. It’s not just men. You’re your own boss, saving animals or doing whatever your heart desires.

What makes you stand out? What sets you apart?
AD: I rescue animals at a young age. Kids my age are worried about partying, hanging out with friends, and having a good reputation. I’m worried about the world. How can I save a life? How many can I save in a week?

Who is a Boss Girl that inspires you?
AD: Well that’s hard. There’s this lady named Anita, she’s an animal activist and she’s actually from Canada. She started the pig vigil and was supposed to go to jail. She was giving pigs water and the truck driver didn’t like that she was being compassionate, but the case was closed. She’s awesome, she started it all.

Who is a Boss Girl you would want to spend the day with?
AD: A BG I would want to hang out with would be Ellie, the founder of The Gentle Barn. I would like to be her for one day. To see what it’s like, to be exposed to a lot more. I’ve never been inside a slaughterhouse to take the animal out. Any rescue mission with Ellie, I would love to go to a Dairy Farm next.

Alina Dhalla is a Boss Girl. Here is my story about meeting Alina.

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A Day in My Life · Lifestyle

Lightbulb Moment: Bust the Door Down

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I absolutely love lightbulb moments! I get an adrenaline rush whenever I have an epiphany because not only does it show me my frequency and the type of energy I’m putting out, but to know that I was given the “Big Magic” to create content and share a thought that could spark a fire in others really makes me glow within.
So here’s the light bulb moment I had recently…
This coming March will be my second time attending a women’s weekend retreat that last year had a bigger impact on my life and how I see the world than any other experience in the 26 years of my existence. So big that I plan to go every year until the day comes that it stops running.
Last year, I attended alone not knowing what to expect so the most I could do was receive and send out love and warm vibes.
This year, I feel called to take a different approach and I want to come with something tangible to give each beautiful soul in our tribe. At this event, each attendee is given a gift bag with healthy snacks, beauty products, books, and other treats.
As an up and coming artist, I would love to design a piece of art that each sister could take home; I haven’t finalized on the medium yet, but what I do know is I would want it to have a powerful quote accompanied by a soothing painting.
One that each boss babe can look at every day and remember how amazing she is and to keep following her dreams.
Today (after putting it off for weeks) I finally reached out to the team that is organizing the event and asked if I could contribute to the gift bags.
I had no idea what the outcome was going to be because I wasn’t sure if I had missed the deadline for sponsors or if everything contributed to the gift bag had to meet a certain standard or be carefully reviewed before being given a definitive answer.
That’s when the lightbulb moment hit me…
It didn’t matter what the outcome was, because I was going to bring them and give them out at the retreat either way.
Whether or not I got the “go ahead” to contribute them to the gift bags didn’t matter because if I was told “no”, I was still going to give them out to everyone, I would just have to do it personally.
…And if I did it personally, I would be able to interact with everyone, tell them about my brand and they in return could tell me about their brand. BOOM! Building a tribe one babe at a time.
Then I thought a little deeper, and realized that this applies to so many other things in life. When it comes to something we really want, we don’t wait for someone to give us an opportunity, we go into it full force and design that opportunity for ourselves!
Metaphorically, we don’t knock on the door and wait for someone to open it, we bust that door down and put on a show for the people inside. We make ourselves to be so awe-inspiring, that they can’t ignore us.
Usually in a situation like this I would be discouraged and feel let down if I were told no, but then I realized that I have the capability of shining my light in more ways than just one.
Just because something doesn’t play out exactly the way l had envisioned doesn’t mean that I can’t turn it in to something just as magical if not more than the original idea or plan. This goes for all of us.
And now for the big reveal…less than 24 hours later I got a response from the team and they gave my the YES, the invitation to be a part of the gift bags. I was ecstatic and I can’t wait to create something that will bring everyone to life and let each woman know that anything she is looking for, she has it all within her.
Remember this the next time you are pitching yourself for an opportunity. Instead of hoping/waiting for the opportunity to fall into place perfectly; ask yourself how you can create the result you want without banking on the go ahead from someone else. You got this babe, it’s all within you.

Lifestyle · Things to Consider

Are Your Goals Coming from Your SOUL?

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What if you knew that the fulfilling, soul aligned “work” you were in the pursuit of or are currently doing wasn’t entirely your choice, but instead a call to action; a step into your authenticity and who you were meant to be all along?

Would you let go of all of those guilty feelings about quitting the soul crushing 9-5 that you’ve only stayed in because of the status, the decent pay, or the low risk and 401K or because you don’t want to be a let down to the people in your life?

Would you stop questioning yourself for going against the traditional path of life after your friends and family convinced you that you might go broke or that traveling the world alone isn’t safe?

Would you keep investing in yourself without hesitation because you know that the fire within you is not there by accident and your calling is not only going to fulfill your soul, but help other amazing people live the lives they authentically desire?

This is something I’ve been ruminating on for a long time now and just the other day it hit me. There’s a reason why I haven’t been able to ignore my burning desire to step outside my comfort zone and create something magical is because I didn’t choose it; the only thing I am choosing is to follow it. My intuition is trying to awaken me, to step into my power and be my most genuine self and real talk, who am I to argue with my intuition?

Same goes for you babe, who are you to argue with your intuition? You owe it to yourself and to the rest of the world to be everything you were destined to be. And I can tell you one thing for sure, you weren’t destined to spend the majority of your existence in a soul-crushing 9-5 making someone else’s dream come true.

Some people may tell you to wait for a more ideal time, other people may tell you to keep your stable job while you work on this “hobby”. While I definitely encourage you to have a consistent income until you’re able to manifest work-life integration, keep in mind that you also want to have enough free time and energy to work on your passion project.

This doesn’t happen when you’re working a draining 11 hour day, dealing with entitled customers and a manager who is so bought in to the corporate minutiae that he/she only cares about being the next CEO of the company.

So if you need to get a job at a local coffee shop or as the receptionist at a trendy start up, go for it. You might have to make under your life for a little bit, but in the end it will be worth it, not to mention a story to tell.

That being said, I have to ask you…Are your goals aligned with your soul?

2018 is here and now is the time to live your vision.
Each year many of us create goals and plans, but come mid year we have given up or forgotten about them entirely. I never understood why it was so difficult to follow through with New Years resolutions, but a recent Facebook live helped me understand.
Goals have to be coming from YOUR soul in order to be fulfilled.
Last January I attended a vision board workshop at my yoga teacher Gigi Yogini’s yoga studio. One thing I remember being discussed was only putting things on the board that are truly coming from you.
An event because your partner wants to go or applying for a position because your parents want you to were not things to be put on the board designed by you, FOR you.

Even if you think things are coming from inside you, it’s important to keep asking why and ensure that the motivation behind your vision is enough to propel you forward.

One common example is losing weight. Do you want to lose weight to be more attractive to your partner or to look good to impress your best friends and other women?
Although those are good motivators, they are not enough, that is why we give up.
But you know what is…saying you want to lose weight to love the skin you’re in even more and to be able to show others in a similar situation how you did it so they can feel good about themselves too.

The same goes for success in your business whether it be life-coaching, jewelry design, health and nutrition, etc.
Are you launching this business just to look successful in the eyes of others and show the rest of the world that you can work from anywhere? Or are you launching it because it’s what gets you amped up every day, knowing that you will have done your absolute best and can fall asleep with a full heart knowing you are following your bliss. It matters.

Take time for yourself to reflect on what ambitions and authentic desires and plans you have for the upcoming year. Make sure they are coming from your heart, your intuition, your fiery SOUL.
Once you have them all planned out write them out or put them on a vision board then put them in a place you will see them every day this year. Then speak them into the Universe, ask the Universe to be by your side while you pursue this.
Starting today, tell yourself “just one thing” (post about this coming soon). Every single day, do AT LEAST one thing to move you closer to that you want.
-Facebook Live
-Blog Post
-Invest $ into a marketing plan
-Attend a retreat or seminar
-Pitch your product to someone
-Do a 1/2 hour HIIT
-Spend a day designing and making new products
You know what you need to do, and darling, it’s all within you.
And finally, let go of any guilt or second thoughts you may have about pursuing your calling. Because that’s exactly what it is, YOUR calling. You have not chosen it, your calling has chosen YOU! How big of an honor is that? All you are choosing to do is follow it, because it’s meant to be.
Remember this whenever you begin to question whether or not you “should”resort to being “normal”. If you don’t feel normal, it’s because you are meant for a higher purpose. The world needs your gift.




Whose Lifestyle Guidance is For You?

Fucking AmazingCheers in MalibuMalibu MountainThe reality of today is that we live in a very sensitive society.
From an early age, we tend to be told that we can do anything, that we are smart and talented, and that we are beautiful or handsome in every way.
This is wonderful for building self-esteem. While it is true that words of affirmation are important and that we all have gifts that deserve to be celebrated, it has also resulted in a generation of sensitive little flowers.
There are certain realities that people are quick to reject because they live in a bubble and think that others are being unkind when in actuality they are relaying valid, beneficial messages.
There are even things that are intended to be cute or funny (not at anyone’s expense) that people find a reason to complain about.
One good example that I recently heard is when my Bliss Project sister Angie Lee changed the name of her podcast to Rich Bitch. There were women emailing to tell her that the new name was “so offensive”.
The name change was intended to rhyme and be clever and catchy so that listeners would remember it. Well done Angie, I honestly can’t think of a better name for it as the content is mostly about money and building a personal brand. Not to mention it’s HER podcast, therefore she can name it what she wants.
We’re not always going to agree with how people phrase things, however if we choose to dismiss a thought or idea simply because it is not stated in our preferred ways, we are choosing to miss out on information that may be vital to life. Yes choosing.
The other day I was listening to The MFCEO Project Podcast with Andy Frisella.
Anyone who has listened to him even once can tell you he gets straight to the point and is the literal definition of “No BS”.
He swears every other word, has no problem calling people out and using their name, and is very open about when he “1000 % disagrees” with someone.
A lot of people may consider this behavior “offensive” and yet he has an enormous following, an incredibly successful nutrition company, and makes more money in one month than most will make in a lifetime.
Why is this? Simple, because he offers value. What more could you ask for, regardless of how hard-ass he comes off?
There is one thing he mentioned in a recent podcast that really resonated with me.
He was talking about how when you set aspirations, to make them BIG, BIG, BIG! Bigger than you think you want. If you want to make 10 million, be ambitious and say 100 million. Knowing that you have something significant to work for means you will be putting an immense amount of heart and soul into everything you do which will lead you to think outside of the box and go to the ends of earth to make your dream your reality.
He then made a very polarizing statement that really got me thinking…
He said “I know your teachers and counselors who haven’t done shit taught you to set small attainable goals, but small attainable goals is how you earn a small attainable life.”
Blunt, but it couldn’t be more true. Why are we conditioned from a young age to listen and take advice from teachers, guidance counselors, parents, or just adults in general?
What amazing things have they done to make someone else’s life better?
What amazing things have they done to make their own lives worth talking about?
Take a good look at most of the adults that you grew up around and ask yourself… Are they living MY dream life? If the answer is no, then what are you doing taking lifestyle direction from them?
Truly they have done nothing but take a traditional path with low risk and decent reward. While there’s nothing wrong with those career choices, if you’re reading this blog, I know that’s not what you’re about.
I know you have a fire within you and are meant for something deeper.
In Gretchen Rubin’s book Better Than Before, she talks about how all people fall under a certain tendency when it comes to meeting inner and/or outer expectations. My tendency is that of a Questioner. One who needs to ask “why?” when met with an expectation and only follows through if it makes sense and he or she deems it worth it.
There could not be a better description of me and the same held true when I was a kid. I never understood why kids would be told “respect your elders”, “listen to your teachers”, or “parents know best”.
I mean yes, they deserve a certain degree of up front respect, but only because they are human and that is a birthright, not because they are older.
Adults or not, I still believed they needed to earn my respect, it wasn’t just going to be given.
Why in the world would I put someone on a pedestal just because they have more life experience than me?
Now I am no way advocating for being intentionally rebellious or insubordinate, however still to this day I believe in listening to someone because they are an example of something I want, not because they are in a position above me, whether that be an older adult, a manager, or someone trying to give me unsolicited counsel.
I can even remember when I was 18 years old and I would go into a classroom of 6th and 7th graders to tutor every Monday. The teachers told them to use “Miss” before my name and I specifically requested to just be called by my name. In my mind I was their equal and I was there to help, not to make anyone feel like I was above them.
The message I am trying to convey here is that it’s important to be selective of who you take advice, ideas, and direction from.
The people who I follow and whose advice I apply to my own life are the ones who are living a life beyond my wildest dreams. My yoga teachers, my life coaches, people who write books, people who create podcasts, people who plan retreats, people who have seen the world.
Why would I take information from anyone who is living an entirely mediocre existence?
I know in my heart, I do not exist to be mediocre and with all my being, I know you don’t either. Today, I am here to remind you of that.
So next time you find someone giving you life tips, question everything.
-Who are they?
-What have they done to be amazing in this world?
-What kind of life do they currently live?

If they are your person, follow them, find out who they follow, and keep finding ways to create magic until your life is magic.

If they are not your person, wish them well and then find someone who can lead you down the path of higher purpose that you are here for. Gift the world with YOUR badassery.

My Journal

Gifts and Authentic Style

If you’ve ever read the The Five Love Languages , you know that Receiving Gifts is one of the languages.
While it is not my love language, it is one of the two that I give the most. The other is quality time.
This is one of the several reasons I adore the holidays so much. Holiday shopping.
Seeing other people light up is one of the most incredible feelings of the human experience, especially when a person knows that you thought of them in particular.
Occasionally I will have the perfect idea for a gift for someone, but majority of the time I just go to local boutiques and farmers and flea markets to see what speaks to me. It’s exciting! It’s something that brings me an enormous amount of pleasure; gift giving and supporting small/local businesses.
This past Sunday, I did the majority of my holiday shopping and before starting, I stopped at The Butcher’s Daughter (a vegetarian restaurant) near me for a lavender mocha to get my spirits high.
There was a long line and while waiting on the barista, I couldn’t help but look around and observe the amazing fashion choices of the people around me. Reason number 184847 that I love LA.
The Butcher’s Daughter is located on Abbott Kinney, known as the “coolest block in America”. Although I have been there numerous times, I now understand why it has that reputation.
Growing up in the Midwest, I didn’t really have a chance to explore and understand fashion. I thought I did at the time, but my definition of fashionable was wearing a velvet hoodie from the latest name brand paired with skinny jeans and fuzzy winter boots (a memory I don’t like to look back on).
It wasn’t until I moved to Chicago in 2010 where I gained my appreciation for vintage clothes and decor and then LA in 2014 where I gained my appreciation for authentic style.
People here know how to put together a look authentic to them from Bohemian to Boss Babe to Bad Bitch. I love it.
When I finally made my way to the Melrose Trading Post where I began my search for gifts, I noticed the same thing.
It’s my personal opinion, that wearing designer outfits from head to toe is the easy way out. While there is nothing wrong with loving the designer pieces that you’ve worked so hard for, there is something so sexy about not knowing where somebody purchased their clothes or who/what the inspiration was to style them that way.
In fact, usually when I ask people where they bought something, they say “a thrift store”, or “a local boutique in (insert destination here”).
I asked a couple of the gals I was waiting in line with where they got their rings and one said “a cruise ship” the other said “Etsy”. It seems as though looking for individual pieces from local designers is the new cool thing to do. Or maybe I’m just the anomaly, who knows.
Here are some of the things I noticed people wearing as I was people watching:
-Perfectly Fitting Jeans
-Beautiful Graphic T Shirts
-Dainty Stacking Rings and Bracelets
-Very Detailed Patterned Leggings
-Dark Sunglasses
-Hair looking like they just came out of Dry Bar
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I’ve always had a deep appreciation for people who take pride in their appearances. It displays confidence and self-worth. Two very honorable qualities.
It may sound dramatic but I’m being totally real, I got such a dopamine rush from observing so many women’s style choices.
It also makes me very intrigued about fashions around the world. Now, I’m sure I will have a hyper awareness towards dress-style patterns as I travel more and more. Being able to recognize this was a great gift in and of itself.

Now I want to turn it over to you ❤

Have you ever had a similar experience of noticing styles of the locals?

Do you have any recommendations of places to travel to where people have great fashion?

Let me know babe, I want to hear from YOU!



Disclaimer: None of the photos in this post are taken by me

Lifestyle · Things to Consider

Regret Minimalization

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Ever since I was a kid, I have struggled to make decisions.
Still to this day, I am reminded that I was the six year old who would stand at the bakery for 20 minutes debating about whether I wanted a chocolate or glazed donut.
I am also not a fan of pros and cons lists. That’s because regardless of which list ends up being longer, there are some factors that hold higher importance than others.
For example, if you’re trying to decide where to go on vacation and the pros are; good food, low prices, and friendly locals and the one con is that the week you plan to go has a high chance of storms for days, that will most likely outweigh all of the positives.

The reason decisions are a challenge for me is because I am very affected by regret.
Although there are very few things I regret in life, things I do end up regretting take a while for me to get over.

Not long ago, I was listening to a podcast that really struck a chord with me and I plan to use this strategy from now on whether decisions are big or small.

The term is called Regret Minimalization.
The truth is that no matter what, there is almost always going to be a drawback to a decision.
Whether that’s expenses, weather, living conditions, people, language barrier, distance, very few times in life is a situation perfect.
What’s amazing though is that often times when we make the right decision, everything feels like paradise so the shortcomings don’t weigh us down. They’re there, but not in a way where we constantly have them on our minds. Life is beautiful that way!

It’s as straightforward as it sounds and relies heavily on intuition. What is something you’re currently going back and forth in your mind about?

-Relocating to another state?
-Taking a hiatus to see other parts of the world?
-Selling everything you have and downsizing to a motorhome?
-Investing thousands into that course that your soul has been calling for forever now?

The list could go on forever, but the debate in your mind can’t.

So next time you are pondering a decision, ask yourself. Which choice am I least likely to regret? It may not come easy, but it will feel peaceful.

I encourage you not to overthink the decision, however it’s more than ok if you need to write down your thoughts and the possible regrets you may have.

Something I have been pondering lately is whether or not I want to leave the United States and experience life in an unfamiliar territory for a while. I imagine myself living in the Jungle near a beach.

Waking up in the mornings to see gratitude offerings of plants, fruits, and vegetables on peoples doorsteps instead of people rushing out the door and pressuring the barista to make their drink as quickly as possible so they are not late to work.

I picture being of service, like helping other women find their true callings, teaching English to those who want to learn, or working on a ranch with sweet animals. I could spend hours in cafes and coffee shops people watching and observing the culture; at the end of my days, my ❤ would be so full.

The second thing I have been pondering is whether or not to hire a life/business coach. I have so many ideas and while I am pursuing them through my blog and art, there is something I don’t know yet that only a coach could teach me. I know that if I want big results, I need to make big changes and take big risks, but the huge financial investment intimidates me.

I didn’t ask to be this way and by way I mean a gypsy soul with a higher calling that involves the road less traveled. It’s more challenging and less secure, nobody wants that.

I could wait a few years before diving right into the unknown and have much more in the bank.
However, if in a year from now I don’t want to be feeling the same dissatisfaction that I feel today, that in itself would be a regret. My heart desires change now and I’m not going to live forever.

Blindly, these two decisions feel incredibly difficult, but when I think of them in terms of regret minimization, the answer is crystal clear.

Why do I tell you this? Because whatever it is that your heart desires and your soul is calling for, you didn’t ask for either.

It’s in you DNA, it’s part of your existence, therefore there is no reason to feel guilty or question if there is something off about you.
It just is, you just are.

With that, I encourage you to block out time for yourself and to find a serene, sacred space to do some soul searching.
Make sure you are not pressed for time or around anyone who will influence your decision.
Be clear on exactly what options you have, ask yourself; Which decision will give me the least amount of regret? Then let your intuition do the rest and your answer will come. And so it is…<3


Design a Life of “I Get To”

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Anyone who knows me well can tell you that I’m all about being real.
Not only in the context of always being myself and wanting you to be yourself, but also accepting what is even if a situation is flat out crummy.
Although I am an optimist and do support being positive in the midst of unfavorable circumstances, I don’t think it’s beneficial to look for the bright side in every single situation; as that’s what I call false optimism. If a situation sucks, it’s ok to say “This downright sucks!”, why pretend?
Hear me out….
Lately I’ve been ruminating on the subject of “I have to vs. I get to”.
It has come up numerous times in the past several months and a couple of weeks ago, a conversation lead me to seeing this phrase in a more ideal light.
Most of the time when I have heard this, it’s been in the context of work life.
Without thinking about it, most people say “I have to go to work”, especially when expressing dissatisfaction in a career.
Some believe that others would benefit from a change in vocabulary and instead say “I get to go to work” because although he or she may not enjoy his or her position, it is paying for everything that person has. Simply put, an attitude of gratitude.
While it is true to some degree that changing your vocabulary can shift your mindset and make a condition more endurable, we can only trick our minds so much before it wears off. In my experience, this approach is not effective over the long term. Other common examples are:
-“I have to get a workout in”
-“I have to eat healthy”
-“I have to have my coffee to function”
-“I have to meet my friend after work” (because there’s no other good time).

What if instead of modifying our minds, we actually designed a life where we could say “I get to” and mean it? How life changing would it be to not feel the mental weight of “having” to do something but instead choosing to do something. Having a lifestyle of options…
Well here’s the undisclosed…the only way to live a life of “I get to” is to have more time.
In my opinion, waking up to an alarm clock five days per week with barely enough time to enjoy your morning coffee just to go somewhere for minimum 8 hours plus a commute leaving barely enough time for a workout, dinner, and possibly an hour of free time sounds like a drag. And for nothing but a pay check?
Life is the most precious gift anyone could ever have and spending it in monotony for decades sounds like a complete misuse and lack of acknowledgement.

Believe it or not, when you choose to do something, your body responds to it in a whole different way than when you are doing something because it’s the only option you have.

Most people with 9-5s work out in the very early morning or right after work because it is the only option they have other than skipping it all together.
While I give those people props, those workouts are not nearly as powerful as when you are not on a time limit.
Think about it…When you’re working out in the early morning you are under pressure to get everything plus a shower in because you don’t want to be late to your job. You are also not fully present because you have to be conscious of time…Well guess what, your body recognizes this.
When you work out in the evenings, you’re using what little glycogen and energy you have left from the day to squeeze in a workout. Because of this, we tend not to push ourselves as hard as we would have if we weren’t burned out from the day. Well guess what, your body recognizes this too!
All of these factors contribute to your stress levels, hormone levels, dopamine levels, etc…This applies to so many things, not just working out.

Imagine a life of listening to your body and intuition.
Waking up to the sun on your face instead of before the sun rises because you’re getting the rest your body wants and your soul deserves.
Savoring every bit of that espresso and having the time to make yourself a cold pressed juice to go along.
Being mentally prepared to hit the gym or that beach yoga class because you’re a boss babe and you want to. And finishing strong because you CAN!
Spending most days in bliss because you have work-life integration and are helping other beauties find their callings.
But at the same time, being able to cry for as long as you need on certain days because you don’t have to put on a show for an office full of people and respond with “good and yours?” when they ask how your day is going.
Being able to schedule an out-of-the-blue spa day with your girlfriends because you GET to, not because you requested it two weeks in advance.
Staying up past midnight watching your favorite show because you’re on YOUR time and don’t have to worry about waking up at a specific hour just to make someone else a little richer.

This is what we all desire and no it’s not just for trophy wives and girls with rich parents. It’s possible, it’s within you, and it’s sure not going to happen working a 9-5 for the next forty years.

With that, I encourage you to step into yourself. What calls you, what sets YOUR soul on fire? Whatever it is, that’s what you’re meant to be doing and that’s how you will create a life of “I get to”.

We’re all called to different paths, therefore I can’t tell you exactly the steps needed to pursue this vision, but what I can tell you is to take the first step and let the universe know you’re ready. The time is now. You’re a Boss Girl, you deserve it, and it’s all within you.