Ever since I was a teen, my alter ego has been a Manic Pixie Dream Girl who lives in a big city. Screw the part about “existing only to teach soulful young men to embrace life and its infinite mysteries and adventures”, I’m talking about her looks and matching personality.
While most teen girls envision the most ideal version of themselves as the homecoming queen who grows up to become the picture-perfect boss lady with a smokin’ hot husband and meets her photoshoot worthy friends for brunch every week, I’ve always admired the free thinking nonconformist.
You know the girl from the movies with blue hair who wears the same tattered AF leather jacket in every scene, but it doesn’t matter because it completes her?
She wears a ton of gaudy rings, has chipped black nail polish, oversized glasses, and drives a beater red VW beetle.
She’s usually a passionate musician or writer with a shitty side hustle and the inside of her apartment looks like a mismatched overly-cluttered vintage store. (Perfect example being Sophia from the short lived Netflix series #Girlboss)
Secretly I’ve always envied that girl and full disclosure, still kind of want to be her. Not that I desire to be broke as a joke having no other options but frayed second-hand clothes and a car that might stop on the freeway on my way to Oakland.
It’s her fiercely authentic nature and unstoppable but New Age, beatnik demeanor that I adore so much.
I’ve always had so many questions about her though…
-Where are her parents and why doesn’t she ask them for help?
-How does she not get depressed from the constant place of struggle and instability?
-Does she even think twice about her credit score or the number in her bank account?
No matter what, she seems to be unfazed by financial insecurity or any roadblock that life tries to knock her backwards with. She’s a warrior and she’s no joke; an irrefutable badass.
Many times I’ve asked myself over the years, “Why can’t I be like her?”
But the other day, I was reading a very powerful article about reinventing yourself and it finally hit me…
Why can’t I be like her? There is nothing stopping me.
I realized that I am the author of the story of my life. I get to decide where the scenes will take place, which characters I want to channel, and the image I want to portray.
That’s when I decided. I’m going to live the story I want to tell.
And I’m here to tell you, you can too. It’s all within you. How miraculous is that?
The first thing you need to know is that whomever you want to be is authentic to you. You were given that want for a reason, it’s your divine assignment to create her, to live her out.
We live in a world where people hold in the most lively versions of themselves because of Imposter Syndrome. #Truthbomb sister friend, the most authentic version of yourself is who you desire to become, not who you currently are. What would be inauthentic is pretending to be someone because you’re trying to live up to an image you think you’re “supposed” to be.
So design her, step into her. She’s magical.
If you’re ready to step into her, let’s do it together. I want to gift you with a guide on how to become her. Here are the steps:
1. Grab a journal and time block at least 2 hours to write out and get clear on this true version of yourself. (Remember this is not the new you, but the true you. Whoever she is, she is already within you.)
2 . Find an inspiring, distraction free place to map out your vision. It could be a trendy coffee shop that gives you creative energy or a zen candle lit spa-like space that allows ideas to flow to you while you sip tea. It’s all up to the individual, this is about you.
3. Write out every possible detail you can about this ideal version of you.
•What does she wear?
•How does she talk?
•What are her interests?
•How does she spend her weekends?
•What does her social media look like?
•How does she decorate her home?
4. Put yourself in environments authentic to her.
•American Ninja Warrior
Wherever this true you likes to spend her time, make that your regular.
4. Up-Level your environment.
It’s important to be rigid about what goes into your consciousness.
•Is your apartment constantly cluttered? It’s time to start keeping it organized.
•Is there a negative person in your life? It’s time to let that person go or at least create boundaries.
•Do you eat greasy bar food every weekend? It’s time to trade that for a whole food health cafe.
This true version of you deserves only the best.
Find a “Power Piece”. Something you absolutely love and can wear or take with you so you can look at it every day. A piece of jewelry, a tattoo, a traveling crystal. This will serve as a reminder for you to keep stepping into your authenticity. It should feel like magic every time you look at it.
5. Act the part until you become the part.
Eventually it will feel natural, so be patient with yourself, enjoy & document the process, and remember #YOUGOTTHISBABE